You Probably Already Know How You Should Handle Difficult Moments

Calm down.

Let it go.

Don’t take it personally.

Stop worrying.

Think positively.

But knowing how you should handle a difficult moment isn’t the same as knowing how to handle it when you’re already caught inside one.

When you’re angry and about to say something you’ll regret.

When you can’t stop replaying what happened.

When you know you should let something go, but you can’t.

When worry keeps pulling you back into something that hasn’t even happened yet.

Those are the moments when we can lose ourselves.

I call that getting emotionally stuck.

Getting emotionally stuck means becoming caught in a feeling, thought, or behavior that pulls you away from the person you want to be.

And you can learn how to handle those moments differently.

The unSTUCK Method® is a five-step process for handling difficult moments when you’re emotionally stuck and don’t know what to do next.

STOP. TUNE IN. UNCOVER. CONSIDER. KINDNESS.

It helps you slow down what normally happens so quickly and automatically, understand what’s happening, and create enough space to find your back way back to yourself.

Choose How You Want to Get Started

“Shira Gura has a totally new approach to mindfulness,

effective even for those for whom ‘be in the moment’ advice has never worked!”

— Marshall Goldsmith, New York Times Bestselling Author

Hi, I’m Shira Gura.

I’m an author, teacher, and creator of The unSTUCK Method®.

And I didn’t create this Method because I was particularly good at handling difficult moments.

I created it because I wasn’t.

I knew what it was like to snap at someone and regret it. To hold onto something long after it happened. To replay conversations. To become convinced I was right.

And to look back afterward and think:

That’s not who I want to be.

I didn’t need more reminders to calm down or “be present.”

I needed a way to learn how to handle myself when I was already caught inside the moment.

That’s what eventually became The unSTUCK Method.

For more than a decade, I’ve been practicing The unSTUCK Method, teaching it through my books and podcast, and coaching women as they learn to use it in the real moments of their lives.

I still get emotionally stuck.

The difference is that now I know how to find my way back.

And that’s what I want to teach you.

What Becomes Possible When You Can Handle the Moment

“I can handle things so much better now and I’m proud of myself.” – Lena

“I now have the tools to handle the moment, in the moment. It’s like an anchor.” – Ilene

“I feel so much much more capable to weather the hard things.” – Krista

“It’s so much easier to get through the day.” – Debby

You Don’t Have to Life to Stop Being Difficult

You need to know you can handle yourself when it is.

You’ll still get angry.

You’ll still worry.

People will still disappoint you, frustrate you, misunderstand you, and push your buttons.

And yes, sometimes you’ll still get emotionally stuck.

The difference is that you’ll know what to do when it happens.

You’ll know how to slow the moment down, work with what’s happening inside you, and find your way back to yourself.

And every time you do, you build something bigger than the ability to handle one difficult moment.

You build trust in yourself.

The kind of trust that says:

Whatever happens, I know I can handle it.