About Me

I wanted things to change.

My husband and I would bicker over the smallest things.

Again and again.

And afterward, I would think, Why do I keep doing this? This isn’t who I want to be.

Maybe you’ve had moments like that too.

I wanted our relationship to change. I wanted the arguments to stop. I wanted things to feel different.

For a long time, I thought that meant something outside of me needed to change.

My husband needed to respond differently.

The circumstances needed to be different.

Something needed to happen so I could finally feel and behave differently.

But eventually I realized something that changed the direction of my life:

I couldn’t control how anyone else showed up.
But I could learn to change how I showed up.

And when I did, something surprising happened.

My experience began to change.

My relationships began to change.

My life began to change.

So I went looking for a different way.

I became determined to understand what was happening in those difficult moments—and what I could actually do when I found myself reacting in ways I regretted.

That journey eventually led me to create The unSTUCK Method®, a simple five-step process for moving through difficult moments after you’ve already been triggered.

It began as something I needed in my own life.

But as I practiced it, something started changing.

I became more aware of myself.

I recovered from difficult moments more quickly.

I stopped carrying things for as long.

I began responding differently.

And those changes didn’t stay contained to one argument or even to my marriage.

They changed how I showed up as a wife, a mother, a friend—and eventually, how I showed up to my life.

A few years later, I created The CLEAR Way®, another five-step method, this time for the difficult moments you can see coming: the conversation you’re worried about, the family gathering you’re dreading, the situation you’re already anticipating.

Eventually, I realized these weren’t simply two methods for handling difficult moments.

They were part of something much bigger… Living Deliberately®.

Living Deliberately is about creating change from the inside out.

It’s learning to become more aware of how you’re showing up in life’s everyday moments—and learning how to respond deliberately instead of automatically repeating the same patterns.

Because those moments don’t only affect you.

They affect your conversations.

Your relationships.

Your family.

The way you feel about yourself.

And ultimately, the life you’re creating.

Today, through my books, coaching, and teaching, I help women create lasting change in themselves and their relationships by learning how to show up differently in life’s everyday moments.

Not perfectly.

One deliberate choice at a time.

Both methods are the foundation of my two award-winning books:

The unSTUCK Method — winner of the 2017 International Book Award

The CLEAR Way — finalist for the 2021 International Book Award

Other books by me:

A Consideration a Day – 365 Unique Perspectives to Shift Your Mindset in Any Moment

I’ve spent years guiding women through this work — in live sessions, in coaching, and in the pages of these books.

And I’ll tell you the thing that still surprises me:

My students are my greatest teachers.

Every week, I watch women discover something about themselves they couldn’t see before.

And every week, I learn something too.

That’s what this work does.

It doesn’t end.

It deepens.

My story started because I wanted things to change.

Maybe that’s why you’re here too.

If there’s something in your life or relationships you want to be different, I’d love to help you begin.

In my free 3-part video series, I’ll show you the two automatic patterns that quietly keep women stuck—and the one deliberate pattern that helps you begin creating something different.