Hi, I’m Shira.
I created The unSTUCK Method® because I needed it myself.
My husband and I would bicker over the smallest things. Again and again. And afterward, I would think:
Why do I keep doing this? This isn’t who I want to be.
I knew how I wanted to show up. I wanted to be calm. Loving. Understanding. I didn’t want to get pulled into the same arguments or keep reacting in ways I regretted.
But knowing who I wanted to be wasn’t enough. When my buttons got pushed, I would lose access to her.
Today, I have language for what was happening: I was getting emotionally stuck.
And when I got emotionally stuck, I lost myself. Not literally. I was still me. But for a period of time, I would lose access to the way I wanted to think, speak, and respond.
And I didn’t know what to do about it.
Like most of us, I knew all the advice. Calm down. Let it go. Don’t take it personally. Think positively. But knowing how I should respond wasn’t the same as knowing what to do when I couldn’t.
I needed something to work with.
That search became The unSTUCK Method®
I became determined to understand what was happening in those difficult moments—and what I could actually do when I found myself emotionally caught.
That journey eventually led me to create The unSTUCK Method®, a simple five-step framework:
STOP. TUNE IN. UNCOVER. CONSIDER. KINDNESS.
It began as something I needed in my own life. And as I practiced it, things began to change.
I became better at recognizing when I was emotionally stuck. I started seeing the stories and beliefs that were keeping me caught. I recovered from difficult moments more quickly. I stopped carrying things for as long.
And increasingly, I was able to recover something emotional stuckness had taken away: my ability to choose how I wanted to respond.
Those changes didn’t stay contained to one argument—or even to my marriage.
They changed how I showed up as a wife, a mother, a friend, and eventually, how I showed up to my life.
I still get emotionally stuck. The difference is that now I have something to work with.
I know how to begin finding my way back. And that’s what I want to teach you.
Today, I help women become more emotionally equipped for the difficult moments of life.
For more than a decade, I’ve been practicing The unSTUCK Method, teaching it through my books and podcast, and coaching women as they learn to use it in the real moments of their lives.
My goal isn’t to teach women how to never get angry, hurt, disappointed, embarrassed, defensive, or worried. And it isn’t to teach them how to handle every moment perfectly. It’s to help them become more emotionally equipped to work with themselves when difficult moments happen.
To recognize when they’re emotionally stuck. To have a framework they can come back to. To recover their ability to choose.
And to find their way back to the person they want to be.
My Books
My work is explored more deeply in my books:
The unSTUCK Method
A Five-Step Process to Get Emotionally Unstuck and Stop Losing Yourself
The book teaches the framework I created for those moments when you find yourself caught in a feeling, thought, or behavior that is pulling you away from the person you want to be.
The CLEAR Way®
A Five-Step Process to Mentally Prepraed Yourself for Anything
A proactive method for preparing yourself for difficult moments you can see coming.
A Consideration a Day
365 Unique Perspectives to Shift Your Mindset in Any Moment
Practice With Me
Learning a Method is one thing.
Remembering how to use it when you’re angry, hurt, defensive, worried, or replaying something for the tenth time is another.
That’s why I created Unstuck Together.
Unstuck Together is my coaching and practice community for women who want support applying The unSTUCK Method to the real moments of their lives.
Bring the moments where you’re stuck.
We’ll work through them together.
Over time, you begin recognizing emotional stuckness sooner, understanding your patterns more clearly, getting unstuck faster, and becoming more emotionally equipped to handle what life brings.
Emotionally Unstuck — The Podcast
Each week on Emotionally Unstuck, I explore the real moments where we get emotionally stuck—and what it looks like to work with ourselves and find our way back.
Through stories, teaching, and reflections from everyday life, the podcast gives you another place to learn and practice The unSTUCK Method.
This Work Started With One Question
Why do I keep doing this when I know this isn’t who I want to be?
More than a decade later, I’ve learned that knowing better isn’t always enough.
We need something to work with when we can’t access what we already know.
That’s what The unSTUCK Method gave me.
And it’s what I hope this work gives you.
Because getting stuck is human.
Getting unstuck is a practice.
And you can learn how to find your way back.